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If you aren’t one of those fortunate enough to have the luxury of air conditioning on days like today, sex can seem unbearable and impossible. It is so muggy, hot and sticky; the last thing we all feel like doing is having sex, let alone a swinger orgy.

I have a solution to this problem! Host a xxx pool party. Invite all of your swingers over to your house (that is, if you have a pool, if not then find someone who does). You can play loads of kinky pool sex games that will surely set the mood for some hot and steamy action- and no, I’m not talking about the weather forecast.

For example, get a bunch of pool noodles and throw them in the water. have everyone jump in at the same time and tell them their task is to grab hold of a pool noodle. If two people grab the same noodle, they have to fuck. If three or more people grab the same noodle, they have to fuck. Sounds pretty simple, right? There are so many different games you can play in a pool that can be swinger themed – you just have to be creative about it.

The best part about xxx pool parties on such a hot day is that the cool water will cool down your body temperature making it bearable to fuck other people. Oh joyous day!

Adding another element to a swinger party – like a theme – can really make things fun and interesting on a whole new level. Think about it, any normal swingers party would be fun, but it would be lacking a unique, creative element. Why not show off to your guests and kick your xxx party up a notch. Here are a few theme ideas that will really get your party started.

70s Party
Pretend you’ve travelled back in time to the 70s when swinging, swapping and all that jazz was in style and in its prime. Tell guests not to shave their faces, or private areas in order to properly prepare for he party. Come on, if you’re going to do 70s theme authentic things will have to get hairy; that’s just the way it goes. Also tell guests to dress in platforms, bellbottoms, polyester one piece suits – anything polyester, really – and leisure suits.

Famous Couples Party
Send out invitations to your guests and pair up random females with random males. That way when all of your guests show up at the party, they know they will have to start out that night with having sex with the person in the costume that matches theirs. For example the two people in the pirate costumes have to hook up, and Kermit the Frog has to hook up with Miss Piggy.

XXX Spin The Bottle
Basically the same rules as regular spin the bottle, only the person your bottle lands on, you have sex with. When you’re done, you continue playing until you’ve slept with everyone attending the party. Sounds like a fun time, right?

Many swingers become a part of the lifestyle on purpose because they get off on watching their partner have sex with someone else and vice versa. There are many pros and cons when it comes to being a swinger, and in this type of xxx dating atmosphere it can be easy for emotions to get involved in a negative way.

If you are in a swinging relationship and start to notice yourself becoming jealous when you see your partner having fun with someone else, there are some key points you need to understand about being jealous. Jealousy triggers itself from an underlying fear that you may have. Do you not feel safe and secure in your relationship? Are you scared that the possibility of your partner leaving you seems more and more plausible each day? If so than maybe continuing to swing isn’t the best idea. However, if this isn’t the case there are other solutions to help you get over your fears and not let emotions get in the way of a good time.

If you feel that this jealousy is causing you anger, paranoia, anxiety or sadness you may want to have a long heart-to-heart with your partner and let him or her know exactly what your are feeling. They will reassure you that you probably have absolutely nothing to worry about. It’s also good to let them know how your feeling so they will be able to put themselves “in your shoes”. Maybe they might tone down how they act while swinging in order to calm your nerves.

Although the two have similar qualities and may sometimes overlap, their core ideals are different. First lets define the two. Swingers engage in casual, non-emotional sex with multiple partners or groups of people at a time. Polygamists are people who are in deep committed relationships and/or marriages with more than one person at the same time.

Polys are often put off with the outwardly sexual attitude of swingers, and swingers are often turned off by the intense focus of relationships put out by polys. Polys are usually followers of the Pagan religion and many seek bisexual relationship. Swingers are mainly in-the-closet Christians and usually seek the company of other heterosexual couples to engage in sex with.

Swinger couples are more focused on not becoming emotionally involved with the other couples they engage in xxx activities with. Their sexual goals are more recreational and short-term based. Polygamists are focused on finding long-term partners, marriage, and spiritual happiness.

Most swingers would rather not use word like “relationship” and “love” to describe their ideal lifestyle goals. Obviously this notion is quite the opposite for Polys. Swingers often tend to lead two differnt lifestyles – their normal everyday lives, and their swinger lives. Polys lead one lifestyle and embrace all of their activities “under one hat” so-to-speak.

The production company Lionsgate, who is famous for the controversial show Weeds about drug dealing in suburbia, wants to introduce a new taboo series to television called Bedroom Community. This reality series revolves around a group of suburban swingers.

Producer of the show Eli Frankel has been quoted on the show saying, ”The world of swingers is mythologized in American pop culture, but very few people outside of it have seen it”. And many would be surprised looking in, he said. “What we have seen on shows about swingers are primarily older hippies, fringe people who are a little bit dirty. What we found are elite groups of people in upscale communities who are good-looking and have money and access. That glossy version is much more interesting to watch.”

Apparently casting for the show took quite a while. Convincing and reminding the couples that they would not be exploited, but in fact be documented as normal people living their normal lives who just happen to engage in relationships that some people may consider to be “on the edge” .

The show will focus on family relationships and will follow each couple in their living rooms, not bedrooms. ”It is not a show about sex but about people and their relationships,” Frankel said.

Even though it is very normal for bi sex to occur at regular swinger clubs, if you are bisexual or bi-curious, it may be more interesting to try and check out a bi swingers club.

When you are at a bi swingers club you will find that there is a lot more sex going on between people. Whether you are male or female, you will be able to have sex with everyone and anyone that is willing; unlike a purely straight or gay swingers club.

You will also find that bisexual swingers are a lot more open to experimentation. Swingers clubs in general are free open safe sex zones where people should feel comfortable in their own skin to try anything they want, and bi swingers clubs allow for more sexual options.

It is common for some people to feel comfortable being bisexual while at a bi swingers club, and yet feel straight when they are at home and living their “every day” routine. This can mean one of two things, but it is very important that you acknowledge these feelings if you notice them. On the one hand it can just mean that you are bi-curious, and even though you don’t necessarily see yourself being able to have a relationship with someone of the same sex, you feel comfortable engaging in sexual acts with them. On the other hand, this may mean that you are in fact bisexual and you haven’t been given the proper opportunity to realize it yet. This may depend on you home life situation. When you are living your “every day” life routine, try and see how you would feel if you decided to be open about engaging in a same sex relationship.

Remember to be open and have fun! There is never any judgment at swinger clubs.

There is one thing that every swinger party needs to get going; XXX party games. If you’re organizing your first party there are some key essential games that are a must. They’re great for icebreakers and getting comfortable with one another, because no one wants to feel awkward at a swingers party. You’re supposed to feel comfortable, free, and let loose at a sex party. Try engaging in some of these party games and I bet everyone’s clothes will be off in minutes.

1. Strip Poker – Basically all you need is a deck of cards, there is no betting required. You can play one of two ways, lowest hand must remove an article of clothing OR to up the ante and get people naked faster all high hands must remove an article of clothing after each round.
2. Dare - This is a simple one, everyone writes down a dare on a piece of paper and places it in a bowl, hat, etc. Then one by one each person picks the dare out of the pile and performs it for everyones amusement.
3. Never Have I Ever – Yes, a common drinking game may be used as a swinger party game. Instead of drinking, remove an article of clothing. If someone is lying and you can prove it, they may also remove their clothes and drink. You make up the rules, at the end of the day everyone should be naked.
4. Spin the Bottle – Ah, and old camp favourite. Although this time instead of pecking little Jimmy on the cheek, this version of Spin the Bottle calls for some serious de-robing and sexual performances.
5. Strip Twister – Bust out the old Twister mat and make everyone play. Everyone who falls must remove an article of clothing until everyone is naked. Oh how interesting Twister is when half of those involved are naked and half aren’t. Just wait and see how much fun this game can be when naked body parts are bending in all sorts of directions.

Swinging is a taboo sexual lifestyle that more and more people are finding interesting these days. The swinger scene is really changing from what we all probably picture in our heads from the 70s. Yes, it is possible to have hot group sex with gorgeous people, and most of the time I’ve found that swingers are the type who like to maintain their bodies in peak physical condition; after all their hobby includes being naked and fucking strangers. Looking good helps the situation even more.  I recently attended a swinger party and this is what I noticed; take notes:

Swingers, like I previously mentioned, are good looking indivuduals. The stigma that swingers are middle-aged, overweight, hairy gold chain wearing folk is just that, a stigma. We aren’t living in the 70s, its 2011 and swinging is in full force.

Swingers tend to lie. I don’t blame them, I would lie as well. Most swingers lead two lives; their normal every day life and their swinging life. It’s best to keep work and play separate. Expect not to hear real names or jobs when being introduced to one another. Just remember you are participating in a group sex event, not a networking seminar.

Swingers hate drama, they just want to let loose and have fun. After all, that is part of the fun of swinging; being able to let loose and be free with your body and sexuality. If you’ve had a bad day at work or are feeling drunk and jealous, don’t bring it up. No one wants to hear it. Leave your drama at home.

Swingers have big mouths (no pun intended). Be careful of who you are chatting with and what you are talking about. Spilling your or someone else’s secrets is a big no-no at a swinger party. Even if you have inside info. about one of the people at the party that you are dying to share with someone, it’s best that you don’t. Secrets travel life wildfire at sex parties. Leave your skeletons in your closet.

It is easy for people that have lived a sexual life filled with exclusive relationships to see swingers sex as the barn door flying wide open unto every sexual desire they ever denied themselves. Rein it in a bit. Not to say that you and your partner can not have all the fun you can dream up in time. But it is wise to remember that the swingers community is not a sexual theme park. Swingers sex is sex in a community a culture with its own customs to be honored. So even if both partners new to the scene have done all the work with each other making boundaries clear and being honest about what both of them want out of the change in the partnership. There are other things that must be learned. Like getting used to having a clear safe sex talk with who ever you meet up with. Working to become equally good at hearing boundaries as well as making them. Learning what it means to be polite and considerate in a group sex situation. From the simple things like offer to help out with set up at parties and if it is potluck bring something.

Be sure to make an effort to visit and connect. It is not good to become known as the couple that shows up and heads for the hot tub until people start to hook up for the night. To the lesser known it is a waste of time to Cruise the ladies at a swingers sex party. By all means talk to them and get to know them. But for safety in most communities still honor the tradition of talking to the husband first. Be honest and let people know who is new. Bring your own supplies as well. this would include towels soap sheets a sarong is nice to have and BYOT bring your own toys along with lots of extra condoms it makes play with more then one person safer. Never touch or take a toy that is not yours with out asking first.

Finding is easier than ever with the plethora of information that is available on the internet. In times past, swinging was a closely held secret among participants, and newcomers to the scene often had a difficult time finding out where the sex parties and events were held. It was often a private thing among friends that held developed trust between them, and they were very cautious about letting new people into their circle. Eventually clubs began to open, but they were largely underground clubs that were difficult to find without knowing someone who knew someone.

Without the internet to provide information on swingers groups, the clubs were advertised by word of mouth from friend to friend, and often newcomers wishing to enter the scene had no way of finding out where the clubs were. It left people in a position of having to broach the subject with close friends that they hoped would be receptive to the idea, which meant taking a chance that their close friends would proclaim them deviant perverted freaks of nature that shouldn’t be allowed to walk among the regular folk who chose to lead lives of higher virtue.

More than likely, the self-righteous friends were curious and, at least the husbands, but they often could or wouldn’t admit that out of fear of being ostracized. These days things are a lot easier. A curious couple can find an incredible amount of information on the internet, and can also get vetted by party organizers relatively easily in order to get invited to events and parties. Swinger clubs are also easier to find, as a Google search will turn up a wide variety of resources for finding swingers groups, events and clubs in many different locations. It’s never been easier than right now to explore our sexuality and enjoy a happy, healthy sex life with like-minded individuals. Every horny person should go do a Google search right now. Go forth and be kinky!