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Everyone seems to think that if you are a swinger, you have no qualms about sleeping around with anyone and everyone claiming to be a swinger as well. This is not the case. Swingers are people too, you know.  It is possible for someone living the swinger lifestyle to not be attracted to another person. So what does a swinger or a couple of swingers do when they realize they aren’t as attracted to a certain couple as they initially thought? No one should have to force sex upon themselves in order to avoid an awkward confrontation. So, heres what you should do.

First of all, it is very normal to loose that xxx attraction in an instant. Maybe you just noticed their horrible body odor, bad breathe, or maybe they said something that rubbed you the wrong way and now you have no sexual attraction to this person/these people any longer. Now, what do you do when you are well aware that your partner is expecting to hook up with this couple and this couple is expecting to hook up with you? How can you get out of it without being rude?

In the swinging community, there is one word that is mutually understood that  nobody fucks with (no pun intended). “No”. No means no, and no one will question you. If you are a swinger, you have to be open an honest with yourself and others and your lifestyle, and if something makes you uncomfortable even in the slightest, you should not go through with it – ever.

Even though saying no may not be easy, no one will be mad, and every one will understand.

If you aren’t one of those fortunate enough to have the luxury of air conditioning on days like today, sex can seem unbearable and impossible. It is so muggy, hot and sticky; the last thing we all feel like doing is having sex, let alone a swinger orgy.

I have a solution to this problem! Host a xxx pool party. Invite all of your swingers over to your house (that is, if you have a pool, if not then find someone who does). You can play loads of kinky pool sex games that will surely set the mood for some hot and steamy action- and no, I’m not talking about the weather forecast.

For example, get a bunch of pool noodles and throw them in the water. have everyone jump in at the same time and tell them their task is to grab hold of a pool noodle. If two people grab the same noodle, they have to fuck. If three or more people grab the same noodle, they have to fuck. Sounds pretty simple, right? There are so many different games you can play in a pool that can be swinger themed – you just have to be creative about it.

The best part about xxx pool parties on such a hot day is that the cool water will cool down your body temperature making it bearable to fuck other people. Oh joyous day!

Adding another element to a swinger party – like a theme – can really make things fun and interesting on a whole new level. Think about it, any normal swingers party would be fun, but it would be lacking a unique, creative element. Why not show off to your guests and kick your xxx party up a notch. Here are a few theme ideas that will really get your party started.

70s Party
Pretend you’ve travelled back in time to the 70s when swinging, swapping and all that jazz was in style and in its prime. Tell guests not to shave their faces, or private areas in order to properly prepare for he party. Come on, if you’re going to do 70s theme authentic things will have to get hairy; that’s just the way it goes. Also tell guests to dress in platforms, bellbottoms, polyester one piece suits – anything polyester, really – and leisure suits.

Famous Couples Party
Send out invitations to your guests and pair up random females with random males. That way when all of your guests show up at the party, they know they will have to start out that night with having sex with the person in the costume that matches theirs. For example the two people in the pirate costumes have to hook up, and Kermit the Frog has to hook up with Miss Piggy.

XXX Spin The Bottle
Basically the same rules as regular spin the bottle, only the person your bottle lands on, you have sex with. When you’re done, you continue playing until you’ve slept with everyone attending the party. Sounds like a fun time, right?

The next time you attend a swinger party, be sure to introduce the touching and playing with these five hidden erogenous zones. These body parts are places that we wouldn’t usually associate with sex, but the sensations one can get from these xxx body parts are beyond amazing.

1. The Ears
They carry bundles of nerve endings that are extremely sensitive to the touch. Use your fingers and tongue to play with your partner’s ear lobe, ear ridge, and behind the ear. Also, exhaling on someone’s ears will drive shivers down their spine – in a good way. Perhaps add a few moans for a supersonic turn on.

2. The Scalp
Running your fingers through someones hair can be the ultimate turn on. Give someone a scalp massage, or if your swingers-capades have landed you in a bathtub, try washing their hair. The sensation of someone playing with your hair follicles is incredible.

3.The Perineum
If you don’t know where to locate this area on your body its the area of skin between the vagina/scrotum and anus. it is a collection of nerve endings that, when touched, can enhance one’s orgasm tenfold. Start out with a little light pressure to the area and gradually increase it. You will be thanking me that you read this.

4. The Inner Thighs
There are plenty of nerves in the inner thighs that no one really thinks about. The area is soft to the touch and sensitive to the tonguing (get creative, folks!). Play, touch, stroke, and gently nibble on this area to soar into climax.

5. The Feet
Feet aren’t gross; as long as you take proper care and upkeep of them. Sucking on a toe or two can be pleasurable for both the giver and receiver of the act. Also, massaging the feet can drive women and especially men crazy. Give it a try – I bet you will change your outlook on foot fetishes.

On April 22nd 1587 a formal arrangement was signed by John Dee, his wife Jane, Edward kelley and his wife Joanna which permitted the couple to engage in “conjugal relations” with each other.

In the 18th century, the only known documented group of swingers were European intellectuals like Mary Shelley, the author of Frankenstein, and her husband Percy Shelley.

In the mid 19th century, the Germans were said to be big advocated of spousal-trading. This was seen as very hypocritical since communists were rather anti-sexual and were “not to speak of common prostitutes” but took pleasure in seducing each other’s wives.

In the 20th century, the sexual uprise in the 1960s is said to have played a huge role in the comeback of the swinger lifestyle. Online swinging took off in the late 1990s due to free sex online dating sites.

Terry Gould’s The Lifestyle: a look at the erotic rites of swingers states that swinging began among American Air Force pilots and their wives during World War II. The mortality rate of pilots was high, so it was encouraged for a close bond between pilots and their wives to ensue, that way if something were to happen, the widow could be cared for by the other husband.

Eventually the media dubbed swinging as “wife swapping”. This gave the lifestyle a negative, overtly sexual connotation which has changed the meaning of it for some individuals forever.

Many swingers become a part of the lifestyle on purpose because they get off on watching their partner have sex with someone else and vice versa. There are many pros and cons when it comes to being a swinger, and in this type of xxx dating atmosphere it can be easy for emotions to get involved in a negative way.

If you are in a swinging relationship and start to notice yourself becoming jealous when you see your partner having fun with someone else, there are some key points you need to understand about being jealous. Jealousy triggers itself from an underlying fear that you may have. Do you not feel safe and secure in your relationship? Are you scared that the possibility of your partner leaving you seems more and more plausible each day? If so than maybe continuing to swing isn’t the best idea. However, if this isn’t the case there are other solutions to help you get over your fears and not let emotions get in the way of a good time.

If you feel that this jealousy is causing you anger, paranoia, anxiety or sadness you may want to have a long heart-to-heart with your partner and let him or her know exactly what your are feeling. They will reassure you that you probably have absolutely nothing to worry about. It’s also good to let them know how your feeling so they will be able to put themselves “in your shoes”. Maybe they might tone down how they act while swinging in order to calm your nerves.

Although the two have similar qualities and may sometimes overlap, their core ideals are different. First lets define the two. Swingers engage in casual, non-emotional sex with multiple partners or groups of people at a time. Polygamists are people who are in deep committed relationships and/or marriages with more than one person at the same time.

Polys are often put off with the outwardly sexual attitude of swingers, and swingers are often turned off by the intense focus of relationships put out by polys. Polys are usually followers of the Pagan religion and many seek bisexual relationship. Swingers are mainly in-the-closet Christians and usually seek the company of other heterosexual couples to engage in sex with.

Swinger couples are more focused on not becoming emotionally involved with the other couples they engage in xxx activities with. Their sexual goals are more recreational and short-term based. Polygamists are focused on finding long-term partners, marriage, and spiritual happiness.

Most swingers would rather not use word like “relationship” and “love” to describe their ideal lifestyle goals. Obviously this notion is quite the opposite for Polys. Swingers often tend to lead two differnt lifestyles – their normal everyday lives, and their swinger lives. Polys lead one lifestyle and embrace all of their activities “under one hat” so-to-speak.

The production company Lionsgate, who is famous for the controversial show Weeds about drug dealing in suburbia, wants to introduce a new taboo series to television called Bedroom Community. This reality series revolves around a group of suburban swingers.

Producer of the show Eli Frankel has been quoted on the show saying, ”The world of swingers is mythologized in American pop culture, but very few people outside of it have seen it”. And many would be surprised looking in, he said. “What we have seen on shows about swingers are primarily older hippies, fringe people who are a little bit dirty. What we found are elite groups of people in upscale communities who are good-looking and have money and access. That glossy version is much more interesting to watch.”

Apparently casting for the show took quite a while. Convincing and reminding the couples that they would not be exploited, but in fact be documented as normal people living their normal lives who just happen to engage in relationships that some people may consider to be “on the edge” .

The show will focus on family relationships and will follow each couple in their living rooms, not bedrooms. ”It is not a show about sex but about people and their relationships,” Frankel said.

Even though it is very normal for bi sex to occur at regular swinger clubs, if you are bisexual or bi-curious, it may be more interesting to try and check out a bi swingers club.

When you are at a bi swingers club you will find that there is a lot more sex going on between people. Whether you are male or female, you will be able to have sex with everyone and anyone that is willing; unlike a purely straight or gay swingers club.

You will also find that bisexual swingers are a lot more open to experimentation. Swingers clubs in general are free open safe sex zones where people should feel comfortable in their own skin to try anything they want, and bi swingers clubs allow for more sexual options.

It is common for some people to feel comfortable being bisexual while at a bi swingers club, and yet feel straight when they are at home and living their “every day” routine. This can mean one of two things, but it is very important that you acknowledge these feelings if you notice them. On the one hand it can just mean that you are bi-curious, and even though you don’t necessarily see yourself being able to have a relationship with someone of the same sex, you feel comfortable engaging in sexual acts with them. On the other hand, this may mean that you are in fact bisexual and you haven’t been given the proper opportunity to realize it yet. This may depend on you home life situation. When you are living your “every day” life routine, try and see how you would feel if you decided to be open about engaging in a same sex relationship.

Remember to be open and have fun! There is never any judgment at swinger clubs.

There is one thing that every swinger party needs to get going; XXX party games. If you’re organizing your first party there are some key essential games that are a must. They’re great for icebreakers and getting comfortable with one another, because no one wants to feel awkward at a swingers party. You’re supposed to feel comfortable, free, and let loose at a sex party. Try engaging in some of these party games and I bet everyone’s clothes will be off in minutes.

1. Strip Poker – Basically all you need is a deck of cards, there is no betting required. You can play one of two ways, lowest hand must remove an article of clothing OR to up the ante and get people naked faster all high hands must remove an article of clothing after each round.
2. Dare - This is a simple one, everyone writes down a dare on a piece of paper and places it in a bowl, hat, etc. Then one by one each person picks the dare out of the pile and performs it for everyones amusement.
3. Never Have I Ever – Yes, a common drinking game may be used as a swinger party game. Instead of drinking, remove an article of clothing. If someone is lying and you can prove it, they may also remove their clothes and drink. You make up the rules, at the end of the day everyone should be naked.
4. Spin the Bottle – Ah, and old camp favourite. Although this time instead of pecking little Jimmy on the cheek, this version of Spin the Bottle calls for some serious de-robing and sexual performances.
5. Strip Twister – Bust out the old Twister mat and make everyone play. Everyone who falls must remove an article of clothing until everyone is naked. Oh how interesting Twister is when half of those involved are naked and half aren’t. Just wait and see how much fun this game can be when naked body parts are bending in all sorts of directions.